Some people are satisfied with the way they are. They don’t see a need to change, or may they just think they’re OK the way they are.
Some will even go so far as to say, “This is the way I’ve always been. I can’t change.”
Can’t usually means won’t.
If you really want to change your life, then you need to ask yourself several questions. The answers you discover will be your first step to changing your life into the life you’ve always wanted.
1. What do I really want?
Most think they know what they want, but if they really did, wouldn’t they have it?
What is it you really want?
Once you ask yourself this, then ask yourself why you want it. Knowing why you want to something is as important as knowing what you want.
This is your first step to getting what you want out of life.
Don’t be afraid to dream big. Think really hard, and then write down these things you want. Don’t edit yourself.
2. What do I need to do to change?
Some of us may have huge obstacles we need to overcome. In fact, your obstacles may be so high that you have to overcome your obstacles before you can start working on your goals.
This can be anything from losing someone we love (grief), to having something happen to us we need to let go of.
It’s up to you to decide how you will do this. Maybe you need counseling, or you just need to talk to someone about issues you have in your life.
Do you need to seek counseling? Do you have something in your life you need to let go of so that you can be happy?
Do whatever it is you need to do to clear up any issues you may have in your life.
3. What motivates me?
What really motivates you?
If your dream is to have a lot of money, then ask yourself why. There is certainly nothing wrong with having a lot of money.
As a proponent of the book, “The Science of Getting Rich“, I believe that we can do more and help others more if we have money. When we have a lot of money, we have the resources to share with others.
My point is really this: everything you want must have a real purpose in your life. If it doesn’t, then it’s really hard to sustain yourself through the tough times.
If you want more money or anything else out of life, have a good reason for wanting it. Being picked on as a child, or having a tough time growing up aren’t good reasons for wanting more money so that we can teach others a lesson. Having more money so that we can show others that we are valuable and worthwhile are bad reasons for wanting more money.
Someone once said that money only makes you more of what you are. So if you want to have a lot of money, enjoy it, and help others, then become kind, compassionate and generous when you are broke.
What motivates you must have a purpose. A good purpose. If you want to use the money to help other disadvantaged kids or even your family, then this is a good purpose.
Hollywood is proof that having money is simply not enough. Your life has to have meaning and purpose. You must have a good reason for wanting more money. That will sustain you during tough times.
4. Am I willing to do what it takes to succeed?
Are you willing to invest the time and effort into what you want?
Having a dream isn’t enough. You have to be willing to take the steps necessary to get ahead. Sometimes this involves sacrifice and sometimes hard work. It’s a lot easier when you change your mindset because the right mindset will keep you focused.
Doing whatever it takes doesn’t mean breaking the law or violating your morals. If you believe that this is necessary to have what you want in life, you’ll end up unhappy. Or worse, maybe in jail.
A little sacrifice may be necessary to achieving what you want. If you want to lose 30 pounds or make $1 million, you won’t be able to do some of the things you’ve done in the past in order to make it happen. However, a little sacrifice is worth it if you get what you really want in life and stop settling for what you have.
5. What steps do I need to take?
Once you’ve made a decision on what you want, what will you do to get it?
Outline your steps. Maybe there are a few things you don’t know. Maybe there are a few things you will have to learn. Don’t let that stop you from getting started. There simply is no way to anticipate everything that can go wrong.
Make a plan, decide what you want and stay focused on your goal. You’ll figure out what to do more quickly than you imagined.
Once you know what you want, then take these steps. Stay focused while taking action, and you will succeed.