Most people become the victims of their own circumstances. What they don’t understand is that often their circumstances are a result of the decisions they make.
Sometimes bad things do happen to us, and these are things we have no control over. More often what happens to us is the result of the decisions we have made based on what we believe. Those bad decisions are often the result of faulty programming. Unless we deal with the faulty programming, it’s nearly impossible to change.
So how do you change all that? How do you get rid of limiting beliefs and feelings that no longer serve you? How do you attract positive things into your life?
You do this by changing how you think. The problem is, how do you change what you think?
Just as Rome wasn’t built in a day, changing what you believe to attract what you want starts one day at a time. The only time you have is now. When tomorrow comes, it will be today. Yesterday is gone, and since we can do nothing to change it, the best thing to do is learn from it, let it go and move on.
Here are seven things you can do to help you do just that:
1. Write in your journal daily.
If you don’t have a journal, I highly recommend that you begin keeping one. You may use a paper journal or a digital journal. (I use a digital journal I can keep on my computer.)
The key here is not to write about what has happened to you, the events that have taken place in your life or those who hurt you. Write about the unresolved feelings you have over the issues in your life. When you do this, then you can let those hurtful feelings go. Letting negative feelings go will help you feel better, and they no longer have any power in your life.
I learned that by focusing on the unresolved feelings I had, instead of the people, places and things in my life, I could feel any way I wanted to. It was OK to feel the way I did. By acknowledging my feelings and then feeling them, I avoided self-sabotage.
One important point to remember, and I learned this in therapy, is that a feeling is always driven by a thought. If you are having negative feelings then determine what thoughts are driving those feelings.
2. Meditate daily.
Meditation is one of the most effective ways to resolve anything. By meditating just 20 minutes per day, you can totally revolutionize your life. The reason is that meditation is calming. It helps you to relax, and it also helps you to stay in the moment.
Much of our stress comes from thinking about things in the past or worrying about future events, things we have no control over or can’t change. When we let go of these things and focus on the moment we are in, then we can enjoy the moment and respond to those things we need to take care of now, not worry about things that may never happen.
Don’t have time to meditate for 20 minutes at a time? Then download one of the many free apps for your phone. There are many meditations available that are only seven to eight minutes long. Anyone can meditate for that long, and you can meditate throughout the day in your spare moments.
3. Believe that you will win.
Henry Ford once said, “If you believe you can, or you believe you can’t, you are right.” What you believe is absolutely crucial to your success because it will influence the decisions you make.
You will make choices based on how you feel, not based on what is really happening or what is truly reality. You are not your circumstances. If your circumstances are based on your choices, then you can change your circumstances by changing your choices. Believe that you will win and you will.
4. Write goals and plans of action.
To have what you want you must know what you want. This is your starting point.
Once you know what you want, then you need to set a goal and then create a plan of action to achieve that goal.
Just make sure that your beliefs are in line with what you want. Otherwise, you won’t be happy with what you get when you get it.
5. Become well rounded.
What I mean by this is that you want to educate yourself. Study all types of things like history, philosophy and other disciplines. Read the classics.
Pay particular attention to works like “The Science of Getting Rich,” by Wallace Wattles and “The Master Key System,” by Charles Haanel. These works can help you develop self-mastery in your life and change the way you think. They can also help you achieve the things you want to achieve.
Becoming well rounded helps you understand the world better. More importantly, it helps you to understand who you. When you become self-aware, it makes it much easier to find your true purpose in life and live a life of meaning.
6. Use positive affirmations.
Wrong or negative thinking can be one of the worst things you can engage in. When we’re negative and pessimistic, we tend to attract more negative and pessimistic into our lives. Like attracts like.
Affirmations help you develop the right mindset so that you bring these things into your life. The key here is to use repetition. The more you repeat these positive phrases, the more likely they are to sink deep into your subconscious where they take root and become an automatic part of your thinking.
Just make sure that you develop affirmations that are based on truth. Repetition makes it possible for these ideas to take root.
7. Share personal growth with others.
Everything in the universe is made of energy and so everything is an energy exchange. (For more information on this, study quantum physics.)
Even you are made of energy. What you send out into the universe will come back to you, so you want to send out positive energy. As Zig Ziglar says, “You can have everything in life you want if you will just help other people get what they want.” By helping others, you will get what you want because what you send out into the universe comes back to you.