What I Learned About Life, Love and Happiness From the Veterans’ Community


What I Learned About Life, Love and Happiness From the Veterans' Community

I have been feeling really bad. I lost my position at Inquisitr. Writing for Inqusitr allowed me to keep a roof over my head while writing about the issues I cared about: veterans, white genocide in South Africa and farm murders in South Africa. Sadly, I couldn’t seem to generate the social media interest that these issues needed, and I wasn’t getting the traffic I needed to keep Inquisitr happy and get the word out too.

It was always the issues for me. That was all I cared about. It never occurred to me that others would think I was in it for the money or the attention. I did what I did because veterans are committing suicide. White South Africans are being murdered in droves, and farmers in South Africa have the highest murder rate among any occupation in the world.

Sometimes no matter what you do, it will be the wrong thing with other people. I’ve learned that over and over in the veterans’ community. Social media seems to be an excuse for some to treat others with extreme brutality as I can honestly say from my experience.

I’ve learned a lot in the process though, and I want to share these things with you because they helped me to get well.

  1. No matter what you do, there will always be critics. I can take criticism from those who know what they are talking about. Sadly, most of the criticism I’ve had to hear in the veterans’ community comes from those who have never done the things I have done. The best course of action for me is to ignore them, and if they’re on my friends’ list, to delete them! LOL!
  2. Most of the comments weren’t criticism. They were outright demeaning and hateful. I was harassed and bullied. The only way to stop it is to fight back, and if I have to fight alone, then so be it. It’s always some crybaby hiding behind his/her profile who is miserable and unhappy and looking for a convenient target to take it out on. That’s not a game I want to play. I’m an adult. Besides, it’s way more fun to just delete the person and treat him/her like they’re insignificant. They can find attention somewhere else.
  3. Although the veterans’ community desperately needs what I have to offer because it would help so many get well, I cannot beg others to get well. The best thing to do is to avoid the sick, angry, lonely and broken at all costs for my own sanity. Sometimes it’s best to just say nothing than to have an opinion that creates controversy.
  4. Although I can’t make others listen, maybe I will inspire someone. Ultimately, we can only help one person at a time anyway. I did my best to help the veterans’ community as well as the South African and SADF community. I simply will not be abused though. Those who stay stuck in unforgiveness, unhappiness and the past aren’t hurting me. They’re hurting themselves. The best thing I can do is get out of their way.

I am grateful for every veteran who has ever served regardless of whether they like me or not and even if they have been cruel. The reason is that each has played his/her part in paying the price of freedom. That is something to be grateful for. I will not, however, hang around so that I can be a part of those who want to be miserable and take it out on everyone else. It’s my life, and unless they’re willing to pay my bills, then they really have no right to say anything at all.

For those who are tired of living in misery and pain, there really are some great resources out there to help you. If you’re interested, then feel free to ask me. Otherwise, I’ll simply live my life and just be happy. I have my life back. Those who hate me, those who want to criticize, bully, demean and hurt me just don’t matter. You can’t hurt someone who doesn’t care, and I simply don’t care anymore! I care about people. I love others. From now on, I will be acting in my best interests, and that’s the best part of all.

Jinger Jarrett

Jinger Jarrett is a full time freelance writer, author and internet marketer who teaches small businesses how to get started online and then market their businesses for free. She is also a US Army Veteran and seeks to connect with other veterans who are interested in starting a business or are currently business owners and want to connect.