Is a Painful Past Destroying Your Life? Here’s How to Live the Life You’ve Always Imagined

Is a Painful Past Destroying Your Life? Here's How to Live the Life You've Always Imagined

One of the most important things I have learned in my quest to get well is that: 1. hurt people hurt people, and 2. it’s not really what others do that matters. It’s how you choose to respond to what they do. Yes, others can cause us a tremendous amount of hurt and pain. They can do things that harm our reputations, destroy our ability to earn a living and even cause irrevocable harm ending in death. Some within the veterans’ community actually take pleasure in trying to push other veterans to suicide.

What I learned here is that people who do this do it because of the way they feel about themselves. It’s not about me. They inflict a tremendous amount of harm on others because it helps them avoid looking themselves in the mirror to see who they really are. They base their entire lives on a lie because it’s better than seeing the truth and admitting being in the wrong. They do what they do because they are selfish and self serving and simply do not care about others because they too are hurt.

Some of these people are sociopaths, psychopaths and narcissists. People like that are dangerous, and you should avoid them. I’ve had plenty of run ins with people like that in the veterans’ community, and it’s often because they’re alcoholics or drug addicts, or they take harmful psychotropic drugs that make them crazy. Avoid people like this. It’s not worth your life, and it’s certainly not worth your mental health.

The worst are the ones who are sick and at the same time well meaning. They give out bad advice because they don’t want to see you hurt when the truth is, they’re actually hurting you by serving their agendas and ignoring the fact that they have given up. These people really are just as bad though. They’re to be avoided like the plague.

What I believe is that results don’t lie, and listening to those who don’t have great lives will be poison to yours. Someone once said that we are the sum total of the people we are the closest to. If you want real success and real happiness in life, and it’s our birthright, then there are certain things you need to do that will change your life forever, and it will change your life for the better.

None of us is perfect, and we have all made mistakes. What I have learned from this is that it doesn’t mean that we are disqualified from having a great life and constantly have to pay for our mistakes for the rest of our lives.

Be warned: some people want you to pay for your mistakes over and over because they are hurt. I would genuinely love to hear people I have hurt say, “you hurt me.” I apologize for my mistakes. I would be more than happy to apologize and try to help the person heal the hurt. Often this hurt comes from a previous event, and as adults, we’re often triggers for one another. True healing requires going back and healing the initial hurt. Real and genuine forgiveness doesn’t excuse others. It sets us free.

I also know that we don’t see things the way they are. We see things the way we are. Others cannot hurt us when we are healed unless they break the law or violate our rights. Words are just that. It’s the other person’s response to an event in his/her life, not yours. The goal is to heal.

According to Dr. Alex Loyd in The Healing Codes, 95 percent of illness is the result of stress. Stress is the result of trauma. Unhealed trauma has a damaging effect on both our minds and bodies for one simple reason: it’s negative energy. Negative energy, fear based memories and all negative emotions have a dramatic effect on both our psych and our bodies too. Illness is the result of our minds manifesting what we feel inside.

We’re meant to live in a positive state. Living in a negative state is draining. It allows illness and mental distress to take root. It also prevents us from living the live we desire.

The key here is to heal all of that mental stress. When mental stress is cleared from the body, it opens the door for the body to heal itself because the body is actually self healing, and it’s self healing because of a basic principle of quantum physics: energy cannot be destroyed, it can only be changed. Since we’re actually made of energy, that energy can change form. It can be moved from a negative to a positive.

Now I know this all sounds complicated and scientific. Here’s what you need to know: regardless of your past mistakes, you deserve to live a life of happiness. It’s not fair to other people to keep repeating yours or my mistakes simply because this is how other people get hurt. I got well because I knew that I hurt others. I didn’t want to hurt others anymore. I wanted to bring peace, joy, love and happiness to others. It would attract those things into my life too and make my life better too.

We make the world a better place by becoming better people. There are many healing modalities out there that can help you heal your issues so you find a life of happiness. Wouldn’t it be wonderful to feel good again? Wouldn’t it feel wonderful to feel excited about life again?

So here’s my recommendation. Find a healing modality that works for you. I’ve tried many different ones like meditation, EFT and others. The one that worked for me is The Healing Codes. The more I use it the happier I feel. So far I’ve lost 10 pounds, I’ve gotten rid of my gray hair which is a sign of aging, and so many things that used to bother me no longer bother me. It’s healed all my physical problems too: bone crushing headaches, backache, skin that itched so bad I scratched it bloody. I just feel good, and I feel so young again. I feel happy!

What’s most important is that I don’t feel poisoned by toxic emotions anymore. I’ve learned to forgive. I never knew what a heavy burden unforgiveness was until I forgave. The Bible says, “you reap what you sow.” Letting go of those who hurt me was difficult and painful.

There didn’t seem to be any justice in it because those who tried to destroy me in the veterans’ community never apologized or made restitution for their lies. The other side of the coin is that not forgiving means carrying unnecessary baggage. It means holding onto things that will eventually poison our lives. As much as I wanted revenge, or justice, I knew that doing to those who wronged me would hurt me more in the end. So I let them go. When I did, my life just got better, and they will reap what they have sown.

You can get a free account on the site to learn how to use this healing modality to help you feel better. When you change your inner reality, it will change your outer reality. When you experience peace, joy and love on the inside, it will bring peace, joy and love to your outer world too. For most that won’t be enough. They want the external things like money, weight loss and great relationships. You’ll get all those too. It’s all about changing your internal reality.

So, the secret is to change your inside, and it will be reflected on the outside. It really is that simple. I wish you much peace, joy, love, happiness and success. If you want to discover how to live an effortless life, then this is the way to do it. Heal and then let go of the past. It will lead you to success.

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Jinger Jarrett

Jinger Jarrett is a full time freelance writer, author and internet marketer who teaches small businesses how to get started online and then market their businesses for free. She is also a US Army Veteran and seeks to connect with other veterans who are interested in starting a business or are currently business owners and want to connect.