I am often loathe to talk about my past or share my past, especially publicly. It never had anything to do with what my detractors say. They’re so good at getting it wrong that it often makes me laugh. The reason it is often so hard for me to talk about the past is because some of those who said they were my friends have often used those details of my life I shared against me to hurt me because they didn’t like something I said.
They reacted instead of listening and responding to what I actually said. I argue on principle. It doesn’t mean that I don’t feel the need to point out the stupidity of others sometimes. It’s really hard not to want to point out the fallacies behind some of the things others say. I choose not to because it’s an exercise in futility. Others think what they want, and what they think about me is really none of my business, and I don’t care anyway.
With that said, suffice it to say that I am the adult child of an alcoholic. That’s what my caseworker at the homeless shelter had to say about it. My psychologist at the VA said that I suffered from unspecified depression. He said he could tell that I also suffered from Post Traumatic Stress, but it wasn’t necessary to add it as part of my diagnosis since I was already aware of it.
I know my diagnosis is correct. The reason is that I finally started to get well. My journey to healing began when I was in the Army and went to counseling. I’ve been on a journey of healing for 30 years. I’ve had a lot of sidesteps and missteps along the way because I listened to my doctors and did what they told me. It caused a lot of unnecessary pain and suffering for me. I’ve spent more of my life now trying to get well than I have actually suffering trauma.
Now I have a plan that is working. It isn’t easy. I made my first mistake when I came back into the veterans’ community six years ago. Then I didn’t realize I had Post Traumatic Stress. I just wanted to help because so many were suffering. What happened was that it pushed all of my issues to the surface, and I had years of negative emotions and feelings that I had to process.
I also got involved with white South Africans. I found out their veterans were suffering too, and they were having to cope with white genocide and farm murders, as well as all the crime in South Africa. I faced a lot of opposition in their community from so many white South Africans because they are so different from us Americans. They’re not just white like those of us in America are white. They cling to their European heritage, something we don’t do, and it caused a lot of problems because of so many cultural differences.
I let myself get caught in a cycle of codependency I didn’t think I would ever get out of. I ended up homeless. I struggled financially. Every project I proposed, started or completed ended up in failure because I was dealing with people who didn’t know what they wanted.
It’s hard not to feel crazy in a situation like that. Dealing with crazy people looking for outside solutions to what are inside problems isn’t the same thing as being crazy. I had traumas that needed to be healed. Worse, I was treated like a distraught woman when I needed to be treated like a veteran in need.
In spite of everything that happened to me over the last six years in the veterans’ community, I got well. I got well because I believe in The Healing Codes, and I learned to be consistent in my coding. I also learned to focus on the feelings and emotions and to process those feelings and emotions.
More and more I find myself writing in my journal about my feelings and emotions, and now that I’m doing that, I can process those feeling and emotions so that they heal. As they heal, I have fewer and fewer triggers to deal with. The fewer the triggers the less the baggage.
That’s an important thing to note here too: when you heal, you free up so much energy. The energy that was being used up to hold onto that baggage and those negative emotions is now free to be used for something positive, something that can help you achieve your goals in life. So, the way The Healing Codes will really help you is to get rid of the stress your body is currently under. When you get rid of that stress and you’re free of that weight, the sky is the limit here on what you can do with your life.
What has using The Healing Codes meant for me in my life?
My allergies are gone. My itchy skin is gone. I’ve had so much dissatisfaction and irritation in my life that I believe it caused my allergies. Allergies fall under the patience category of the codes too. I was very impatient and temperamental. I’m not that way anymore.
Having the skin irritation gone too means that I no longer flinch when someone touches me. That one was really hard. It may not seem like a big deal to someone who doesn’t mind being touched, but it was a big deal to me.
Addictions were also a big deal. Drinking, smoking, overeating and sex, spending too much money. Anything to make myself feel better and feed that need for love, and that’s really what it is, trying to satisfy a need in a way that is unhealthy because of low self worth. The key to loving others is first loving ourselves and validating ourselves. If we want others to love us, then we must first love ourselves.
Self love is crucial to your success in every area of your life. If you don’t love yourself, you won’t take care of yourself. When you love yourself, it will be reflected in your finances. You’ll find it reflected in your relationships and health. These are the three areas you want to achieve success in if you want to achieve success in life.
Without great health, you won’t have the energy to do anything. Without love it’s hard to function because we are all built for relationships. Without self love, we don’t build the resources we need to care for ourselves and then help others when they need our help.
If I can stress one thing here, it is this: everything in the universe is in relationship to everything else. We weren’t meant to live alone. We weren’t meant to be alone. We rise to our highest selves and find peace, joy and love when we love others, and they love us.
You deserve to be happy. I believe this because it is reflected in the abundant and lavish universe we live in. The Healing Codes can help you heal those toxic feelings and emotions you are experiencing, and when you do, you’ll find happiness in every area of your life.
Maybe you don’t think you deserve to be happy. Maybe you’ve done some things in your life that you’re not proud of, and because of it, you think that you don’t deserve to be happy. I don’t believe this is the right attitude to take. I believe that we were meant to live happy. All of us have obstacles to overcome, and it’s up to us to overcome those obstacles.
Hurt people hurt people. Happy people make the world a better place. So many people want the world to be better, and they are looking for an outside solution. They think that if certain things would change, then the world would be a better place. The world only becomes a better place when we change for the better.
Gandhi said it best when he said,
“You must be the change you wish to be in the world.”
When we change on the inside for the better, the outside will change for the better. That’s just how life works. It’s not woo-woo theory either. That’s just how the universe works. If you want the world to be a better place, then be a better person.
There’s nothing wrong with you. It’s the wrong thoughts, feelings, beliefs and emotions that are wrong. Heal those, and you will find happiness and the life you deserve. You owe it to the world to bring your unique gifts to the world.
We all crave a great life. Many of us just don’t think we deserve it. We believe we don’t deserve it because we listen to those who are supposed to love us. Those who really love you will be happy for your success, and they will encourage you. They won’t tell you that something shouldn’t be done or that you shouldn’t desire what you want out of life. They will be there for you to cheer you on when you seek success, and they’ll be happy for you. They’ve already given up anyway. They just want you to give up too. Don’t.
Being stressed out and unhappy isn’t the way we’re supposed to live. Life is meant to be effortless, and we’re meant to overcome every obstacle we have in our lives. The Healing Codes can help you heal those issues in your life so that you live that effortless life.
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